Why are a lot of men struggle with lasting during sex and what you can do right away to start lasting longer in bed? Understanding ejaculation control and some of the common causes of premature ejaculation, it's important to understand the human nervous system. Don't worry I won't get too technical with this, but it is some important information that you want to know.

There's the parasympathetic nervous system and the sympathetic nervous system. The sympathetic nervous system is the fight-or-flight response. It's primarily dominant when we're feeling stressed, when we're feeling fearful, afraid for our lives and a lot  of people in this modern world are stressed out. There's a lot of anxieties, a lot of fears, and this is causing many people to be completely stuck in a sympathetic nervous system. The fight-or-flight response and the ejaculation function is connected directly to the sympathetic nervous system.

The parasympathetic nervous system is the rest...

There is a serious pandemic spreading in the world right now, and this is something that's much deadlier than a virus. It's affecting a lot more people. This is the porn pandemic. 

Statistically people are having a lot less sex now, but porn viewing has gone up significantly since the age of quarantine began earlier this year. Porn traffic has increased 300-400% or more so there's much more porn viewing, but people are having less sex. Human sexuality is becoming very disconnected, it's becoming mechanized and we're turning into these sexual machines with a very inhuman expression of sex. This is affecting many people in a very negative and destructive way. There's a major difference between having sex with an actual partner and watching porn. When you watch porn you're stimulating this false sense of connection, this false sense of being with someone, and it leads to certain imbalances in your mind, your body, and your energy body as well. First, one of the more...

 How does semen retention relate to balding?

Hair loss for men is a major problem and a lot of men are starting to experience this at younger and younger ages.  Some men are balding in their 20s. Some of the main causes for balding are excess levels of stress and nutritional deficiency. 

 I want to share with you a bit of Chinese medicine perspective on the issue of balding. Balding is caused, according to Chinese medicine, by a deficiency of jing. Jing is our vital physical essence, it's our core energy. It's related to sexual fluids and to hormone levels. We're born with an abundance of jing and then we really decide how we want to spend this jing, our core energy. This is why when we're children we're so vibrant and juicy. We have this abundance of jing, but as we age, everything we do is spending jing. We are eating unhealthy food, using drugs and psychoactive substances, we are not exercising, we’re not getting enough sleep,...

Semen retention is an incredible lifestyle where you start to build up sexual energy. You build it up instead of constantly dispersing it. Most men have never held a charge of sexual energy in their body for a long period of time. Most men have to release it as soon as they feel it. They can’t hold that sensation. So when you learn to hold onto this sexual charge and build it, incredible changes start to happen in your physical, mental, and emotional body.

1. Increased Testosterone Levels

On day 7 of practicing semen retention, your testosterone levels go up by about 150%. You get this peak in testosterone levels. There’s a lot of hormonal changes happening in semen retention and I think that’s part of the benefits experienced during semen retention.

1. Increased Confidence

Your confidence is going to increase tremendously when you start practicing semen retention. For me, personally, I used to really lack confidence in my life and a lot...

People often ask me if there's any dangers to practicing semen retention and there are some potential negative side effects.

Semen retention isn't just an easy fix-all  for everyone. There's some certain dynamics that happen when you start to retain your sexual essence that you really need to be aware of so you don't amplify negativity in your life.  It's important to understand that when you're practicing semen retention, you're simply building up sexual energy, you're simply ‘adding more fuel to the gas tank’. This isn't inherently good or bad, you just have more energy to express yourself in whatever way that you. It’s the equivalent of giving someone a million dollars. Does that suddenly make them a good person, or fix everything for them? Definitely not! Some people are going to do amazing things with that money, some people are going to improve themselves, improve their community, and change the world. Some people are going to do horrendous...

When you retain your semen for 30 days, which means you go 30 days without ejaculating, there are some very significant changes that happen. Things that I have personally experienced myself, and that many other men are reporting as well. As men, we’re conditioned to believe that it’s normal and healthy for us to ejaculate frequently, every day. And this is because of porn conditioning. We are so sexually overstimulated that we feel like we have to release our sexual energy every single day. I was in this pattern personally as a teenager, from about thirteen to my early twenties. When I was about 22 or 23, I started to realize how much masturbating to porn every day was affecting my life. It was depleting my energy, it was depleting my vitality. I had no focus, no confidence, no motivation in life. I was drying up in my early 20’s. 

I always felt that sexual energy was very special in some way. I knew that there was some way to integrate sexuality into...

A question I often receive is:

"is it ever ok for me to ejaculate?

When you're new to the lifestyle, it's important to hold your semen for longer periods of time because it's very likely that you're coming from a place of depletion. There's an important reboot period where you are rewiring your brain and releasing old habits. 

Once you've gotten your energy levels back up, it's not going to be a huge deal if you ejaculate from time to time. 

How often you do so depends on your age, health, lifestyle, and other personal factors. In general, if you feel depleted after you ejaculate, if you feel fatigued or unmotivated the next day, you should probably retain for longer periods.

It's easy to get into an obsessive, ego driven approach to semen retention. The most important thing should always be your intention. It shouldn't be rigidly avoiding ejaculation at all cost it should be an overall intention of making the most out of your sexual energy, recycling this energy, and...

Is edging harmful or beneficial while practicing semen retention?

Edging is typically masturbating and reaching a point of high arousal, but never actually ejaculating. You’re ‘riding the edge’ or orgasm. Edging can be both harmful and beneficial. IT’s all about context and it’s all about your skill level.

It’s important to learn to move sexual energy throughout the body, be able to work with the energy directly. This is crucial in learning how to last longer in bed and have full-body orgasms!

Edging can be harmful if you don’t have any skill in working with sexual energy. You active your sexual energy, you become aroused, there’s congestion in your genitals but you’re not doing anything with it. It’s sitting stagnate....

What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?

Men often ask me what they are like. Are they different from ejaculatory orgasms?

It’s important to know, as you may, or may not, be aware, men can have orgasms without ejaculating. They can have many orgasms without ejaculating. They can have powerful, full-body orgasms that are much more satisfying, in my experience, than ejaculatory orgasms. 

Why would you want to do this?

First of all, when a man ejaculates, there is a recovery period, a refractory period. The body has to recover because hormonal changes happen and the body loses energy with every ejaculation. If you think about it, it’s like when you’re having sex when you’re at maximum arousal, when you’re close to that point of ejaculation, you’re at a point of high energy, you’re pumping with energy and blood and then you ejaculate. How do you feel 20 seconds after that? You feel limp, tired, fatigued,...

Sexual energy is magnetic energy. And for us men, our semen holds the root, the seed of our sexual essence and magnetism. Most guys are jerking off every day and ejaculating their essence outside of their body. They’re releasing it. This leads to low testosterone levels. It leads them to be more feminized and not in their masculine power. By practicing semen retention you build up a reservoir of masculine energy and this makes you more polarized, which will lead to attracting feminine energy. 

One of the keys to doing this successfully is allowing your sexual energy to be fluid and to be flowing in your life. Just practicing semen retention isn’t enough for most guys. You need to be working with this energy consciously and circulating it throughout your body to get the highest benefit from it, and to really tap into that juicy sexual energy.

It’s a bit of a phenomenon, men who are practicing semen retention or nofap, suddenly find that...